A Better Way to Breathe & The Right Way to Kegel

This post explores relearning how to breathe in order to help your pelvic floor function better. Additionally, we’ll discuss how much or how often you should be contracting your pelvic floor.

Changing your breathing pattern might sound intimidating or even annoying, but it is an imperative step to helping you move and feel better. Because breathing is something that we do all day long (roughly 25,000 times), if you knew there was a better way to breathe, wouldn’t you want to do it? Especially if it could help get your abs back or stop that urine leakage that happens more often than you’d like to admit since your first pregnancy? Breathing more effectively can minimize or eliminate any nagging back pain too (1, 2).

To get started, let me introduce “Core Connection Breathing” with a 360 degrees of expansion breathing pattern. This requires connecting your core to your breath (more on how to do that in a moment) to make your core muscles work better for you.

But first, what do I mean by the core? Picture a cylindrical canister, like a can of soda. 

The top of the canister is your diaphragm muscle. The bottom consists of your pelvic floor muscles. The front is made up of your deep transverse abdominis muscles, and the back consists of your deep multifidi muscles

Due to this innate structure, the pelvic floor muscles don’t contract in isolation but rather in cooperation with all of these muscles that make up your abdominopelvic canister (3).

So how exactly do I connect all of those muscles that make up my “core” to my breathing pattern?

Watch these two short breathing video to learn how:

1. 360 Degree Breathing

Taking it one step further, engage the muscles of the abdominopelvic canister.

2. Core Connection Breathing

So putting it all together: 

First – Inhale through your nose.

Breath in through your nose into your belly, back, and sides for 360 degrees of expansion. 

Next – Exhale through your mouth.

Breath out gently through pursed lips as if you are breathing out through a straw.

Then – Contract your muscles from the bottom up.

By exhaling and thinking about contracting your pelvic floor muscles first at the bottom and then your deep transverse abdominal muscles at the front of your canister, it helps prevent getting mixed up and “bearing down” which is not ideal for your pelvic floor in regards to managing pressure.

Now, what you may have suspected but not realized, is that if you followed the last step in the instructions in the video, you just did what most people call a “kegel.” And you did it the right way. Unfortunately, most women doing kegels aren’t doing them correctly because they’ve never really been taught how to do them. Just being told to “squeeze down there” is not enough.  It’s a disservice to women that they are not instructed in more detail.

You now know the proper way to do it. Any time you attempt a kegel, remember to Exhale and Engage simultaneously. E + E = keeps away the pee. 

Now that you’ve been taught how to use your breath to make your core muscles more effective, spend some time relearning, reconnecting, and reinforcing this pattern.

Exhale from the bottom up to do a KEGEL the RIGHT WAY.

On average, a person takes 12-20 breaths per minute. This means that in a 24 hour period, the average human takes about 25,000 breaths. That is a lot of opportunity to practice!

Practice this lying on your side first, then while lying on your back with your knees bent up. Eventually, try it while you’re sitting and standing too. You can do it while you are driving in your car, reading your children books at night, or waiting in line at the grocery store. Make it a habit to incorporate it into your daily routine. Some opportunities may be each time you sit down to nurse your baby or while you’re trying to fall asleep at night because your mom-mind won’t slow down thinking about all it needs to get done the next day.

How many kegel exercises should you do? That is a loaded question and unfortunately, hard to answer since it should be based on each individual person’s symptoms and needs. The research reveals a variety of protocols ranging from five to 200 repetitions per day! It is clear that there is no consensus on the amount of exercise required to improve pelvic floor function because multiple factors contribute to outcome (4).

Some research recommends doing six sets of 10 repetitions per day to see real improvement (if you have mild pelvic floor dysfunction) (5).  I encourage you to attempt this, but do not become frustrated if you aren’t able to reach this number. It’s more important that you are activating your core muscles effectively. Quality is far more important than quantity when it comes to doing your kegels and breathing in a better way will help ensure you achieve this. Breathing better and doing kegels the right way post-partum could help you decrease your risk of incontinence and minimize back and pelvic girdle pain (6). This alone will help you move better in order to mom better.

And yes, those mamas who’ve had a cesarean section, you should care too. You aren’t protected against changes in pelvic floor anatomy (7), but more importantly, this approach will help your abdominal muscles heal to expedite recovery from the major abdominal surgery you underwent. 

One quick word of caution though: Kegels are not for everyone. If something feels odd or causes pain or discomfort as you try these suggestions, see a women’s health physical therapist. Remember, inhaling and relaxing is just as important as exhaling, especially in cases of chronic pelvic pain.


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  2. Smith MD, Russell A, and Hodges PW. Disorders of breathing and continence have a stronger association with back pain than obesity and physical activity. Australian Journal of Physiotherapy. 2006; 52: 11-16.
  3. Hankyu Park, M, et al. The effect of the correlation between the contraction of the pelvic floor muscles and diaphragmatic motion during breathing. J. Phys. Ther. Sci. 2015; 27: 2113–2115.
  4. Marques, A., et al. The status of pelvic floor muscle training for women. Canadian Urological Association Journal. v.4(6); 2010 Dec PMC2997838.
  5. Hagen, Suzanne. A randomized controlled trial of pelvic floor muscle training for stage I and II pelvic organ prolapse. Urogynecology Journal 2009;20(1):45-51 doi: 10.1007/s00192-008-0726-4.
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6 thoughts on “A Better Way to Breathe & The Right Way to Kegel”

  1. There are several ways to find your pelvic floor muscles. When using the pelvic floor muscles, women will feel a slight pulling in the rectum and vagina. Men will feel a pulling-in of the anus and the penis will move. Every person is unique, and different techniques work for different people. Imagine that you are in a crowded room and feel as if you must pass gas or “wind.” Most of us will squeeze the muscles of our rectum and anus (back passage) to prevent passing gas. The muscles you squeeze are the pelvic floor muscles. If you feel a “pulling” sensation at the anus, you are using the right muscles. In the majority of patients, this is the most successful technique.

    1. Thanks for sharing this excellent explanation! I have a lot of patients who this example resonates well with. I appreciate your insight and look forward to exploring your website more. 🙂

  2. I’ve suddenly become very aware of how many products are in the market for “bladder leakage”, with ads shifting to target the younger population. I’m fact, I just commented to my husband that I was astonished with the number of ads on TV for these types of products. It’s clearly a large scale issue….and perhaps one that doesn’t necessarily have to exist (or at least to the extent that it does?). Great suggestions to help fix, rather than band-aid the issue.

    1. It’s true; there are so many! Medication usage may be so high because everyone is looking for that “quick fix” and aren’t willing to put in the “time” to accomplish their goals. Admittedly, I’m speaking broadly now, because I know there are some people who truly need medication to manage their issue, but throwing pills at anyone who walks through the door should not be the standard. Consider this comparison…if your doctor told you to take an “exercise pill” every morning (i.e. do 3 sets of 10 of 3 individualized exercises) and your issue would be better, would you? Most people are diligent about taking their medication every single day, but how many of us our consistent with feeding out bodies the exercise is innately craves on a consistent basis? The pros–less side effects, less of a band-aid approach, more control of your body and health. The cons–it requires discipline and a little more time than popping another pill with your morning breakfast.

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